Saving what for marriage??

Growing up I was always that kid in youth to ask "How far is too far?" "I get to save sex, but what about everything else?". It was a very confusing time, as I imagine it is for the majority of christian teenagers.

It's so counter cultural to save sex for marriage, as it's lost its meaning and sentiment through time. You're considered old fashioned or frigid if you still have your virginity past the age of 16. Now I'm not here to slam people who have sex or have had sex in the past, as honestly that's your life decision.

Over the past few years, I have made mistakes in this area and will admit that I was selfish and didn't always put god first. Now I'm not saying I regret those times, as I think that's showing disrespect to the people I shared those moments with.

All I know from that is that there's things I want to do in my future relationships and things I don't want to do. Now right now, I am single so you could say it isn't an issue I need to think of yet.

However I would so disagree. My time being single has been amazing for me to figure out what god wants out of my future relationships and to help me set the standards before I enter one.

I have always struggled keeping the purity god desires for us, whether that's single or in a relationship. I have come to terms with the fact that sometimes I lack self control and I am aware it is a weakness of mine.

So after realising this, I have figured out I need to put some boundaries in place to help myself keep to gods design for our relationships.

The boundary I have settled on and is what I believe would help me to best honour god and my future husband; is to save our kiss for our wedding day.

Now I get that some of you will find this crazy and feel like I'm taking it a step too far and perhaps over reacting. However I don't think we can ever be too cautious when it comes to something so sacred as our purity.

It also sounds mad because I've clearly already shared many kisses with many different people. However I am saving my purity from now and having that as a boundary from now.

Jesus died on the cross to save us and forgive our sins, we need to live in the freedom regardless of our past with sin.

I understand this won't be everyone's cup of tea and some will agree or disagree and that's okay. I'm also not saying every christian should do this, as the bible doesn't have a guideline in this way.

I am just putting the idea out there that if this is an issue or has been, then we need to be wise and set boundaries so we can run from sin. 

Lets fight this battle together and run from sin, not to it.

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